We live in a crazy world that’s filled with comparison. I often find myself comparing myself to other women thinking she’s prettier than me, she’s a better mom than me, she looks better in that dress than me, she sings better than me… And so the list can go on. Comparison has the potential to open a can of worms that can take you down a rabbit hole where you just end up feeling sorry for yourself.
When we compare ourselves to other people we also open the door to be judgmental about them. We may look at someone and think, “oh they’re better at this than me etc.” but we may see them do something that we don’t like and then all of a sudden we’re judging then for what they did. Before we judge someone we should consider what we’re doing differently to some peoples normal or incorrectly. Matthew 7:3-5 says; “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye”. If we considered the way we did things and why we do them differently to how other people do things we may be able to the “plank” in our own eyes instead of focusing on the dust in someone else’s eye – if this makes sense.
I think we should really try not to compare ourselves to other people or be judgmental. I think we should be celebrating or enjoying our differences. We can also learn a lot from each other, especially if we stopped to ask why they did what they did and tried to understand them a little bit better. This will also allow us to see the gold in them. I’m a big fan of calling out the gold in others – this is where you allow Jesus to show you how he sees someone. It also opens your eyes to seeing the good in them.
If we judged less we would be able to positively impact the people around us. If we’re seeking out the gold in people instead of the dirt I’m pretty sure we’d make more people feel accepted, liked and maybe loved a little bit more around us. Especially if we tell people what the gold is that we see in them. Proverbs 12:25 says “Anxiety weighs down the heart but a kind word cheers it up”. This reminded me of a time when I worked in a company where I was anxious all the time because I knew someone would come and say some thing negative about me at some point during the day. It really got me down because I became so focused on making sure I got everything right. On the odd day that I got a compliment it really made a difference. In a world where people seek acceptance and love from people we can imitate Jesus and accept people as they are, we can choose to see the gold in them instead of seeing the dirt and judging them for being different.