I feel like honour is something I never seem to get right in my marriage. I know when I’m being stubborn, strong willed, or just want my way God gently reminds me that I need to submit to David and honour what he is saying.
A couple of months ago I knew I was right about something and I wanted to prove it. David asked me to wait a little bit before I ran off and did my own thing. After some negotiation I kind of got my own way and got to do what I wanted without waiting. A few hours later we were chatting to friends and the topic of honour came up and I was sharing with them what happened with David and I. I ended the story with, “I should have just honoured what David had asked me to do instead of being so strong willed about what I wanted to do.” It was at that point when I was like, “oh” I think this was God’s gentle way of reminding me of what honour looks like.
Fast forward a few months later and David and I were chatting about something that had happened and how he wanted to do something which was different to the way I wanted to do it. David shared with me why he wanted to do it that way. After he had explained it to me, I was like, “okay that makes sense”. I often find that if someone explains something to me then it’s easier to submit or even honour what they say. I think this is where I add the grey area to submission. The bible says in Ephesians 5:22 – 23 “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church,”
When we submit to God we don’t ask him 50 million questions or ask him to explain himself, well… sometimes we do but he doesn’t always give us an answer. We also don’t get to add in a grey area with God. He’s pretty black and white when it comes to things. We should submit to our husbands in the same way – without adding a grey area. We submit to God knowing he has our best at heart and it’s the same with our husbands. I know when David makes a judgement call or leads in a specific way he has my best at heart. When I submit to him I am honouring him and his decision. I don’t always get this right but I’m working on it – especially with Gods help and gentle reminders along the way.